Conflict Resolution (Part 1)
Conflict as a Doorway to Connection
With Ike Lasater
May 5, 2007 9:30 AM - 5:00 PM
May 6, 2007 9:30 AM - 1:00 PM
When we are in conflict, we are connected in a certain kind of way; we just don’t like the nature of that connection. Additionally the quality of this connection typically doesn’t lend itself to mutually satisfactory solutions. Using Nonviolent Communication (NVC), you can transform conflict into valued connections. The purpose of this workshop is to provide you with skills to facilitate the transformation of conflicts into easeful-flowing, connected conversations, which result in mutually satisfying resolutions.
Observing others mediate, spending time in the mediator’s chair and receiving feedback will fuel your learning in this workshop. You will learn from the other participants: what worked for them and what didn’t – not in a theoretical sense, but viscerally what shifted them and what didn’t. Additionally, the coaching you will receive as you are implementing your new skills has been refined in over 400 hours of similar NVC mediation trainings.
In the workshop, you will rotate through the roles of NVC mediator, disputant and observer. As you do so, you will develop mediation skills, expand NVC fluency and grow personally. All participants will practice translating judgments into feelings and needs and receiving feedback from the other participants.
About Ike Lasater
Ike Lasater draws upon a wealth of experience in his approach to needs based mediation, facilitation and trainings. This experience includes trying lawsuits for twenty years – with hundreds of settlement conferences and mediations; co-founding and growing a law firm, that specialized in complex multiparty, document intensive, commercial and environmental cases.
Ike has extensive training in Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. and others, and he has facilitated workshops based on Nonviolent Communication in California, Texas, New York, Virginia, Ohio, Arkansas, Montana, Pakistan and Sri Lanka. Ike has served as a member of the board of directors of the Center for Nonviolent Communication 1999-2005 and currently is a member of the board of directors of the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California. He served for approximately 20 years on the board of the Lawyers’ Club of San Francisco. He co-founded the Yoga Journal and participated in the founding of, and served for many years on the board of directors of, the California Yoga Teachers Association. He is on the mediation panel for the United States District Court for the Northern District of California.
Ike’s experience also includes over three decades of marriage and parenting of three now adult children (who seem to enjoy interacting with their parents); long term practice of aikido, Zen meditation, and yoga. Ike co-founded Words That Work.
Read more about Ike, and his journey from Lawyer to NVC Mediator at his Words That Work web site.
Schedule:
Saturday
Morning session: 9:30am – 12:30pm
Lunch break: 12:30 -1:45pm
Afternoon session: 1:45 – 5:00pm
Sunday
Single session: 9:30am-1:00pm
Minimum experience: Bare Essentials of Wholehearted Communication or equivalent. If you are interested in this course but don’t have the required basic training, please contact Cindy Tucker (see below).
Event location:
Mountain Women Resource Center
19900 Cedar Road North
Sonora, CA 95370
Map Link
Registration:
To hold a space, email registrar@wholeheartedcommunication.com. Please include the name of the workshop for which you wish to register, your name, address and phone number. If you have questions, call Cindy Tucker at 209-586-8916.
Regarding the cost of this workshop, we are inviting you to participate with us in an experiment. Here’s how it works:
From the proceeds of the past year’s events we have accumulated enough money that we can pay for this workshop in full, allowing you to attend free of charge. Because we have found that attendance is more predictable when people pay a deposit, we are asking that everyone send a $25 deposit with their registration. When you arrive, we will give you back your deposit check. When the workshop is done, we will ask you to consider contributing to the creation of future workshops. It’s up to you how much you give or whether you give anything at all. If you choose not to join us in this experiment, you can pay $120 and be done with it.
Here is our thinking behind this experiment:
Our primary goal is to create NVC learning opportunities for everyone who has a desire to learn. To do this we need to generate money or other ways of covering our costs. When you decide how much to give –maximum $200 minimum $0– we ask you to consider your own resources and needs as well as ours and those of others who would benefit from this work. And we ask you to include such needs as peace of mind, inspiration and contribution as well as financial needs. Your presence itself is a gift to others participating, your using what you learn is a gift to those with whom you share, and your financial contribution would extend to someone in the future what we are offering to you today.
Please mail your deposit check for $25 to:
Cindy Tucker
22846 Fuller Rd
Twain Harte, CA 95383
Regarding food, please let us know if you prefer to bring a brown bag lunch or share in food that we will provide (organic turkey sandwich or vegetarian alternative). If you will be sharing food with us, please “place your order” by Wednesday, April 25th and consider contributing an additional $5.