Conflict Resolution (Part 2)
Conflict as a Doorway to Connection (Part 2)
With Ike Lasater and John Kenyon
October 20, 2007 9:30 AM – 5:00 PM
October 21, 2007 9:30 AM – 1:00 PM
When we are in conflict, we are connected in a certain kind of way; we just don’t like the nature of that connection. Additionally the quality of this connection typically doesn’t lend itself to mutually satisfactory solutions. Using Nonviolent Communication (NVC), you can transform conflict into valued connections. The purpose of this workshop is to provide you with skills to facilitate the transformation of conflicts into easeful-flowing, connected conversations, which result in mutually satisfying resolutions.
Join John Kinyon and Ike Lasater to learn to facilitate emotionally charged conversations anywhere, anytime. When you are “triggered,” learn to reconnect with yourself first, and then support others to reconnect with themselves. Next, learn to use your skills to foster rapport so that each is heard to their satisfaction. From this place of mutual understanding, you will be able to nurture a collaborative search for resolutions that satisfy all concerned.
Sitting in the mediator’s chair tends to encourage personal growth in that it requires returning to the present, again and again. This workshop will hone your NVC skills of†empathic presence, reflection, translation,†and of making†clear and doable action language†requests in the present tense. You will have the opportunity to practice these skills in role plays by sitting in the mediator’s chair facilitating conversations between two disputants. You will have the chance to receive invaluable feedback from those playing the disputant roles and from those observing; and you will have an opportunity to learn by playing the role of disputant as well.
For those who have been in similar trainings with Ike and John and who have been practicing this training approach, there will be opportunities during the workshop to receive feedback on your coaching
About Ike Lasater
Ike Lasater draws upon a wealth of experience in his approach to needs based mediation, facilitation and trainings. This experience includes trying lawsuits for twenty years – with hundreds of settlement conferences and mediations; co-founding and growing a law firm, that specialized in complex multiparty, document intensive, commercial and environmental cases.
Ike has extensive training in Nonviolent Communication with Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. and others, and he has facilitated workshops based on Nonviolent Communication in California, Texas, New York, Virginia, Ohio, Arkansas, Montana, Pakistan and Sri Lanka. Ike has served as a member of the board of directors of the Center for Nonviolent Communication 1999-2005 and currently is a member of the board of directors of the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California. He served for approximately 20 years on the board of the Lawyers’ Club of San Francisco. He co-founded the Yoga Journal and participated in the founding of, and served for many years on the board of directors of, the California Yoga Teachers Association. He is on the mediation panel for the United States District Court for the Northern District of California.
Ike’s experience also includes over three decades of marriage and parenting of three now adult children (who seem to enjoy interacting with their parents); long term practice of aikido, Zen meditation, and yoga. Ike co-founded Words That Work.
Read more about Ike, and his journey from Lawyer to NVC Mediator at his Words That Work web site.
About John Kinyon
John is a master communicator and conflict resolution specialist. He is a leading trainer and facilitator internationally in the process of Nonviolent Communication, which is being carried out in over 65 countries around the world. John has worked in the field of interpersonal communication and conflict since 1992, resolving conflicts and offering communication skills and principles to thousands of individuals and groups around the world. In 2002, he provided Nonviolent Communication training to Afghan tribal elders along the Pakistani border.
John facilitates communication training and conflict resolution with individuals, groups, and organizations and works closely with NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg as a co-trainer at 9-day international intensive retreats. John was trained as a clinical psychologist and has started three businesses. He also has a long study of spiritual practice and principles of nonviolence. John’s vision is a world where the norm is for people to be meeting their needs and resolving conflicts through mutual, respectful understanding and searching for ways to meet the needs of all concerned. He lives with his wife and three children in the San Francisco Bay Area. For more information about John and his work visit www.jbksolutions.com.
Schedule:
Saturday
Morning session: 9:30am – 12:30pm
Lunch break: 12:30 -1:45pm
Afternoon session: 1:45 – 5:00pm
Sunday
Single session: 9:30am-1:00pm
Minimum experience: Bare Essentials of Wholehearted Communication or equivalent.
Event location:
Mountain Women Resource Center
19900 Cedar Road North
Sonora, CA 95370
Map Link
Note: The Mountain Women’s Resource Center is located in a newly developed area whose streets are not shown properly on online maps. So, follow the directions to turn (R) at Cabezut Road, go a short block and turn (R) onto Cedar Road (this looks more like an alley than a street). Do not go to the N Cedar Road that is marked on the map.Within 100 yards, the road turns to the right again. The Mountain Women’s Resource Center is the 2nd building on the (L). There is a sign in front saying Mountian Women’s Resource Center.
Registration:
To hold a space, email registrar@wholeheartedcommunication.com. Please include the name of the workshop for which you wish to register, your name, address and phone number. If you have questions, call Cindy Tucker at 209-586-8916.
Regarding the cost of this workshop, we are inviting you to participate with us in an experiment. Here’s how it works:
From the proceeds of the past year’s events we have accumulated enough money that we can pay for this workshop in full, allowing you to attend free of charge. When the workshop is done, we will ask you to consider contributing to the creation of future workshops. It’s up to you how much you give or whether you give anything at all. If you choose not to join us in this experiment, you can pay $150 and be done with it.
Here is our thinking behind this experiment:
Our primary goal is to create NVC learning opportunities for everyone who has a desire to learn. To do this we need to generate money or other ways of covering our costs. When you decide how much to give –maximum $200 minimum $0– we ask you to consider your own resources and needs as well as ours and those of others who would benefit from this work. We, also, ask you to include such needs as peace of mind, inspiration and contribution as well as financial needs. Your presence itself is a gift to others participating, your using what you learn is a gift to those with whom you share, and your financial contribution would extend to someone in the future what we are offering to you today.
Regarding food for Saturday’s lunch: We will provide a vegetarian soup (Mung bean) and a Thai Shrimp-Rice soup along with bread, a non-wheat alternative, fresh veggies and hummus. We’ll also have fresh fruit and a dessert. The food is a gift of a several of the attendees. We will also have coffee and various hot teas. If this menu doesn’t meet needs for you, please plan to bring your own brown bag.