FAQ
What is Wholehearted Communication?
Wholehearted Communication is based on the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) model, developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg.
As the name implies, this approach to communication emphasizes compassion as the motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat or justification for punishment. In other words, it is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. These techniques allow you to make conscious choices about how you will respond whether you get what you want, or not. It is definitely NOT about guilt and tricking people into giving you what you want.
The process of NVC encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing, how and why we are each feeling as we do, what our underlying needs are, and what each of us would like to have happen. These skills emphasize personal responsibility for our actions and the choices we make when we respond to others.
Nonviolent Communication skills will assist you in dealing with major blocks to communication such as demands, diagnoses and blaming. In CNVC trainings you will learn to express your feelings without attacking. This will help minimize the likelihood of facing defensive reactions in others. The skills will help you make clear requests. They will help you receive critical and hostile messages without taking them personally, giving in, or losing self-esteem. These skills will be useful with your family, friends, students, subordinates, supervisors, co-workers and clients. These skills will be useful with your own internal dialogues.
NVC is a clear and effective model for communicating in a way that is cooperative, conscious, and compassionate.
Source: http://www.cnvc.org
What is your thinking on money?
Based on our experience of the healing and transformative possibilities of NVC, we are creating these opportunities for the community to experience NVC. In order to act in alignment with our values, we have chosen to make the trainings available by donation only*. We have suggested donation amounts as a guide, trusting that your decision regarding the donation will hold both your needs and ours equally.
Our ideal is to act only from natural giving, with no thought of extrinsic reward. We define natural giving as giving that arises joyfully from the heart, rather than from ideas of deserving, guilt, shame or fear. We aspire to mutual participation and collaboration, recognizing that money is only one strategy. We are open to discussion and creative solutions, imagining that financial ease would be as welcome to you as it is to us.
We are a small, all volunteer organization. 100% of your donation goes back into creating learning opportunities for others.
*Donations are not tax deductible.
Who are you?
We are a small diverse group, six people to be exact, who have been drawn together by our love, hope and common experience that Nonviolent Communication can foster compassion in all our interactions, beginning with our most constant companions…ourselves.
The current Coeur group consists of:
- Nancy Balkenbush, MSW Marriage and Family Therapist
- Greg Falken, Partner in webdancers, a web development company
- Sue Holper, Trager Somatic Practitioner
- Grace Miller, Student of Interspecies Communication
- Liz Sewell, Director of the Mountain Women’s Resource Center
- Cindy Tucker, Registered Nurse